I wrote this blogpost in August, for a blog I used to have and I found that it helped a lot of people then, so I wanted to publish it on this blog as well, all I've changed is the comments from my followers, and I am so grateful for how many people were willing to help me - I had to cut down the comments because there were too many! I hope you enjoy this post.
Tall. Thin. Flawless skin. Faultless hair. Perfection. Society's view of perfection is stupid. Take a piece of paper with society's view of perfect on and rip it up because it is not real.
So much pressure is being put on young people these days, apparently it's not good to be curvy, or have imperfections. So we all have to be perfect now do we?
NO.
Stuff society, you can look however you like to look and you can be whatever weight you want to be and you can wear the clothes you feel comfortable in. Basically be whoever you are, because that's perfect for you.
But if you aren't confident in what you look like here's some advice!
- don't think about what your body looks like, focus on what you can do! What can you do?
Can you Dance? Can you Sing? Are you Amazing at a particular sport? Are you good at art? What other talents do you have?
-Something I want you to do: go to the mirror nearest to you. Look at yourself in that mirror. What do you like about yourself? Can't see anything you like? Look a little closer, get a better mirror. Find something, no matter how small, just something. Now embrace what you love about yourself!
- cut out size labels in your clothes. Sizes in different shops vary so so much, so why think of your clothes as a particular size? Think of them as the size that is perfect for you.
- do the things that you enjoy! Bake, dance, sing, draw, run, walk, sponsor an animal, do some charity work, do whatever makes you happy (unless its something illegal!) because (quote coming!) " love who you are, and love what you do because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter"
I also asked my followers if they had any advice, so here's what they said:
im_meganu
Quote: 'love yourself, without your flaws you wouldn't be you'
You shouldn't care what others think, the friends and the people that matter love you for you :) x
honeyhideaway
You're perfect, everyone is different and unique. Love your imperfections because they make you you:)
tiasdiary
our flaws makes us different, unique, and beautiful!
_itssmillie
Having self confidence is one of the best things you can do for yourself, ask your friends or family for advice because that's one of the ways to be comfortable and happy in your own skin!
xakidax
Be yourself& Be different
alohaitsmollie
At the end of the day nobody actually cares what you look like because you are your own person and they are only jealous of who you are
lovefromluellax
It doesn't matter what size or shape you are, be yourself, be unique<3
sophiejohnson14
It's good to be different, normal is boring!
perksofbeinggabbi
I was told once that you should nver change who you are for what they want you to be and everyone is different and different is good
aimee_mcguire
I love this quote: 'nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent' -Eleanor Roosevelt
floralodds
Our flaws make us different. What are we without our flaws? We're all 'normal' people, but what is normal? Who is normal? No one because we're all different, no one is normal, we're all special and we are not perfect, no one needs to be perfect. (Chloe)
hurricanedaisies
Take a look in the mirror with a friend. Say something that you don't like about yourself. Everytime you say something bad about yourself your friend must say three good things. I once watched an assembly about how short life is. They measured the days of your life in jellybeans and lots had been used up for eating, sleeping and the usual stuff and then there was some used up for school and work and then stuff like that but after all of those there weren't many left. They asked us what we would do with our last few jellybeans. Would you use them to spend worrying what other people thought? Or would you not care because of how short a time it was? That's how you have to think. Don't waste time worrying about negativity of others. Focus on you!
amandabrickx
If someone doesn't like you for your looks then let them be a rude person, be happy with what you are because there are always people who will look at you and be jealous of your body and your looks and wish you looked like them. Those rude people are only jealous that you are prettier than them and they are just heartless
imfeelinghappy
Think of your ten year old self (or an age younger than you are now) and tell them everything you say to yourself everyday (e.g fat, ugly) You can't do it can you? so why do you do it to yourself everyday?
lilbeccaa
This might sound mean and I'm sorry, but find someone who you love or like or admire, whether they're your best friend or the "pretty girl". Now find something on them that maybe isn't quite perfect. At first you might think they are flawless, but everyone has their imperfections and that makes them who they are! Maybe they get quite a few spots or are really tall. Now think to yourself, does that make you like them any less? Does that stop them from making you smile? Does that mean that you don't think they look nice anymore? No. And they don't think that about you! They don't notice the little things that you notice about yourself, just like its hard to find imperfections in other people sometimes. But if they do see it (is its just as fact that you have super curly hair or w/e) , they don't care and it doesn't affect them at all! This is super long and probably doesn't make any sense sorry!
ellie_morrisonxxx
We can all have role models but if we strive to look like them, have the same personality as them and just generally be like them u will loose the person you were born to be ... Yourself!
If this blog post helps just one of you, then I will know it was worthwhile. Please do not hesitate to share it if you know of anyone who it might help and comment below with some feed back. What do you think of slightly more serious blogposts?
Disclaimer: in no way, shape or form am I saying that I am completely confident in what I look like. The aim of this blogpost Is to help YOU.
Thank you for reading this, follow, comment and share if you'd like to! I hope you enjoy my future blogposts
Lots of love,
Emma xxx
